Wednesday, August 27, 2008

LOVE-CHANCE-WORK-CHOICE


No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE..
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.


So aptly put and so meaningful.

Yes, when we were young, we fall in and out of love so often we didn’t what to make of it..call it love at first ke…crush…infactuation ke…whatever.. then lo and behold, we meet someone who displays exceptional ‘husband material’ in our eyes and decide ‘that’s the guy I want to marry, that’s the guy I want to be father of my babies, that’s the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with…’
Yes, who knows who we meet along the journey of life.

“No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance”.

Yes they say, love knows no barriers, young, old, ugly, beautiful, fat, thin people whatever, all have fallen in and out of love before…given the chance. We happen to meet and we happen to click…simple as that. Some say, we didn’t choose to, but we happen to meet and by chance we fell in love…
Ah love…its such a wonderful word…a wonderful feeling…chances are when one is in love, everything else is blurred, you see nothing you don’t want to see, you forget all else around you and your whole life is centred on that one person you are in love with…or think you are. It is not by choice, the feelings are so strong, it is there…it is by chance you meet, God has planned it this way, so be it.

“No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK”

Yes, boy does it need good work to keep the love going.
Yes, you had your chance to fall in love, now work to keep it together, warts and all, flaws and all…don’t look at the negatives…look for the positives, how did you meet…what made him ‘husband material/father material’ earlier? Look at how much you’ve shared, how far you’ve come together, the kids have come along…cant be that bad…yes, there are times you wished for other things to happen, but hey, nothing comes easy…you got to work at it to keep it together. Who says work is easy, ‘hard work never killed anyone’, someone said. So work on keeping the loving relationship going.

I do admit, sometimes, you don’t want it to work anymore, as you think you have met someone else by chance and you are in love with this new person, you are tired of all the mundane living day by day, you want to break out, try something different, do something for yourself…leave the daily rumdrums of life behind, all the problems that creep up…kids, family…hey who said life was easy! And yes, you do have to work to keep the love there…its hard but at the end of the day, it’s worth it.

“And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by CHOICE”

Yes, life is difficult if you see it one way, but it depends on you. I have spoken on choices before. “The grass is always greener on the other side”. “The road not taken…” Can’t speak for all the partnerships that break up, again yes it is by choice. I am sure when a relationship doesn’t work out, be in girlfriend-boyfriend or husband-wife, a lot of thought has gone into it, consultations, meetings, negotiations, fights, make-up, counseling, …a choice has to be made, to keep it together or go separate ways. No easy matter but sadly has to be done to keep everyone sane and limit the heart-rendering cry-outs and emotional upheavals.
Yes, choices of keeping the love together or falling out of love…the choice is yours. Don’t spend too much time on your choice, time waits for no man, cos as surely as I am writing this, people are falling in and out of love at this very moment.

Fall in love by chance- great
Work to keep the love together-good luck.
Fall out of love – choice is yours.

Cest la vie.
24.8.2008

1 comment:

R L said...

I have to question the assumptions here! Everything we choose is a choice! We always get to choose our words, actions, feelings, even which thoughts we will entertain and which we will allow to pass. Think about how that statement can be used in the reverse by someone seeking for justification to isolate themselves. They might think something like, "I guess its true, I can always fall out of love, if I want". This does not really happen. We might make different choices about how we wish to move forward in a relationship. That does nothing to change our feelings for the person or how we feel about what the potential would be if we stay. Just because something is published all over the internet, it doesn't make it true, Just because something sounds profound doesn't make it accurate and useful.