Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Things you can't change...some things you can.

Change is the only thing that is constant and death is the only thing that is certain, so they say.

Someone said: "Spending our time imagining what would have been if you could have changed some little thing, some little decision in your life, is counterproductive and leaves you unhappy. Think about how you can improve for the future, but dont waste your present thinking about how you could have changed the past".

How true! Have you done something you wished you didn't and have regretted it ever since. Dont waste time thinking about it, they say. Move on, think positive, easier said than done.
Getting over it, wishing it never happened, wishing it to go away, wouldnt help. I have been in such situations and have been hearing of such situations and how people are finding it difficult to get on with their lives. However, it doesnt help anyone at all to wallow in self-pity, to question why it had to happen, why me!

Well, we have to accept that it happened, we have to face the facts that it did and we have to accept the change that comes with it. All things happen for a reason, we can't change that. We need to come out of such situations stronger, we need to fall back on our families and friends. Things happen, we sometimes make wrong choices, we let it happen, sometimes its through no fault of our own, its beyond us. Sometimes we have no choice but to let it go...

So I say, pick yourselves up, start afresh, you are worth so much more. Feel good about yourself, forgive yourselves, you are not solely to blame, it takes two hands to clap...
Why brood, life goes on.

We can't change the past but we can make a difference to the present. Live and let live.
We can choose to be happy, we can choose to live the way we want it from now on...

1 comment:

Thinking Allowed said...

Let me share with you my 5 cents worth of advice. When you have done something great and yet nobody seems to appreciate you, don't worry. Buy yourself a cup of coffee, pat your own shoulder and whisper quietly--'well done'.

(Why whisper? In this high pressured society, many people are talking to themselves unknowingly, sometimes crying and laughing at the same time. So this is just a precautionary measure to avoid misunderstanding. :)